Friday, November 26, 2010

Presentation to the Child Develpment Initiative in Tallaght

On Thursday the 25th of November, I gave a presentation to the Childhood Development Initiative in Tallaght. This is a group of professionals interested in child development working in the Tallaght area. Their website is here 

The presentation was followed by a lively discussion. I intend to follow up on some of the points raised in future posts.

I would like to thank Paula for organising both this event and all the other ones over the last few years.

The presentation I gave can be found here.

I will be delivering a follow up presentation on Adolescent and Adult attachment in March 2011


Thursday, July 1, 2010

Course on Deliberate Self Harm in Adolescents Delivered by Temple Street Children's Hospital

I attended a training course for professionals on self harm by adolescents called the Space Programme (Supporting Parents and Carers of Young people with self-harm). It was designed by Temple Street Children’s Hospital in conjunction with the Mater Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services. This programme was developed to inform and to educate professionals who work with teenagers who self harm.  It was drawn up in response to the numbers of teenagers who self harm that attend the A&E in Temple Street. A key message was that further research is required into this problem in Ireland.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

I Can't Get Over My Loneliness

In a recent Sunday Times article, Aunt Sally responds to a problem from a girl whom I will refer to as Susie. Susie is concerned about her ability to make lasting friendships and fears that she will be lonely forever. At the outset, she states that she is 20 years of age. She doubts her ability to empathise with people and she says that she ends up destroying relationships. She states that her friendships never last and that her friends end up needing her more than she needs them. She says that she is “chronically lonely” and not close to anyone. She says that she has never had a proper relationship with a man although she has had plenty of one-night stands and has put herself in “dangerous situations”. She continues by saying that she has slept with people whom she knows have been in relationships and she has no remorse for the hurt that she has caused. She says that she finds social situations difficult and that she relies on alcohol just like her mother has done for years. She states emphatically that her mother was not or is not an alcoholic, however drinking makes her “very cruel”. She says about her mother “it’s accepted in my family that the only way to deal with her is to drink with her or run away and I have been doing both with varying degrees of success all my life”. She says that something is not quite right with her and that the prospect of being this lonely forever kills her. The “full” abbreviated text can be accessed here.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Some Interesting Videos from Youtube 2

I have been doing some searching on youtube, and came across a number of interesting videos including.
Click the links to see them.


Monday, May 10, 2010

I Can't Forgive My Father

In a recent article by Sally Brampton in the Sunday Times, a woman whom I will refer to as Joan, writes about her father who left the family home after 30 years of marriage some seven years ago. Joan talks about the effect his departure has had on her, her mother and her family. A link to the abbreviated letter can be found here (update, the article was never published for some reason). In brief, she writes about how his departure had a devastating effect on her mother and her sisters. He didn’t talk to the children about it. Instead, he wrote to her and her sisters “a very cold and factual letter”. He has made an effort to apologise and Joan and her father have tried to get their relationship back on track again. However, Joan finds that “she is extremely closed down and can’t forget her feelings of abandonment or disappointment in him”. She states that he asked to see his newborn second grandchild but Joan refused as she finds his visits so awkward and sad. Joan realises that she needs to get past her feelings but she doesn’t know how to do that at the moment. Her father has now asked her whether it is time for them to go their separate ways. She wonders if it is their only option. Joan says that she is desperate to reconcile this situation.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

I Love My Husband But I Can't Stop These One Night Stands

Sally Brompton in a recent piece in the Sunday Times answers a problem entitled:-

 “I love my husband, but I can’t stop these one night stands”.

An abbreviated letter from a woman, whom I shall refer to as Jill, is published. Jill writes about her infidelities, guilt, shame and the cycle of self-destruction in which she finds herself. She talks about how her father leaving her mother had a profound effect on her and how her husband provided her with stability during this time. She says that “my husband isn’t open emotionally, but he’s a lovely man who brought me stability at a difficult time” and “we had a great five years together”. She questions her own behaviour and worries that her behaviour will break her husband’s heart. She wonders, given her actions, should she be married at all.

Sally in her reply, says that she is unsure of the source of Jill’s behaviours. She urges her to face up to her demons to find the source of her unhappiness. Sally says “wherever we go, there we are. Even if we flew to the moon, we couldn’t escape ourselves.” Sally also refers to Jill’s feelings of guilt and shame around her behaviours and how that is linked to her questioning herself about whether she should be married or not.

In this article, there are a number of points which Jill has made in her (abbreviated) letter that strike me as conflicting.