In a recent Sunday Times article, Aunt Sally responds to a problem from a girl whom I will refer to as Susie. Susie is concerned about her ability to make lasting friendships and fears that she will be lonely forever. At the outset, she states that she is 20 years of age. She doubts her ability to empathise with people and she says that she ends up destroying relationships. She states that her friendships never last and that her friends end up needing her more than she needs them. She says that she is “chronically lonely” and not close to anyone. She says that she has never had a proper relationship with a man although she has had plenty of one-night stands and has put herself in “dangerous situations”. She continues by saying that she has slept with people whom she knows have been in relationships and she has no remorse for the hurt that she has caused. She says that she finds social situations difficult and that she relies on alcohol just like her mother has done for years. She states emphatically that her mother was not or is not an alcoholic, however drinking makes her “very cruel”. She says about her mother “it’s accepted in my family that the only way to deal with her is to drink with her or run away and I have been doing both with varying degrees of success all my life”. She says that something is not quite right with her and that the prospect of being this lonely forever kills her. The “full” abbreviated text can be accessed here.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
I have been doing some searching on youtube, and came across a number of interesting videos including.
- A strange situation experiment.
- Harry Harlow himself conducting experiments
- A number of videos of imprinting in action
- Including one of Konrad Lorenz himself.
Click the links to see them.